Marriage Counseling

Husbands: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

by Lynn Busch

Husbands: pay attention to these danger signals. They may not always scream for attention, but they demand acknowledgment and proactive measures to salvage your relationship. As a marriage counselor, I’ve witnessed countless couples grappling with issues that threaten the very foundation of their relationship. It’s not uncommon for one partner, often the husband, to be caught off guard when their spouse initiates discussions about separation… Read More »Husbands: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

Wives: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

by Lynn Busch

Ladies, part of me hates to ask you to do one more thing. (In my defense, no one ever said marriage would be easy.) However, learning to recognize the following danger signals can help you turn things completely around in your marriage. 1) He stops wanting your attention. Part of you may be thinking, “Oh, goody. I’m relieved he doesn’t want my attention. He is… Read More »Wives: Pay Attention to These Danger Signals!

How to Know if You Have a Healthy Marriage

by Lynn Busch

Many of us wonder if we have a healthy marriage. We know it’s supposed to be hard sometimes, but is it supposed to be this hard? And is it supposed to be this hard for this long? We look around and see other married people and they seem to be doing better, so sometimes we wonder. Every marriage is unique, but there are two key… Read More »How to Know if You Have a Healthy Marriage

Wrong Belief # 10: If I’m Not Good at Something, I Shouldn’t Have to Do It

by Lynn Busch

This wrong belief causes a lot of stress, but the reality is there are certain things we all have to learn how to do in order to live our lives. For example, we have to learn how to clean our houses, manage our money, take care of our health (which will involve a certain amount of cooking), get along with other people, make and manage… Read More »Wrong Belief # 10: If I’m Not Good at Something, I Shouldn’t Have to Do It

Wrong Belief #9: People have to agree with me, like me, accept me and treat me in a certain way

by Lynn Busch

Oh dear. This belief is a disaster waiting to happen. In our daily lives, many of us find ourselves bound by the unspoken need for everyone to agree with us, like us, accept us, and treat us in a particular way. The moment someone strays from this expectation, or disagrees with us, it can cast a shadow over our entire day. Of course, it’s natural… Read More »Wrong Belief #9: People have to agree with me, like me, accept me and treat me in a certain way

Wrong Belief # 8: People Never Change

by Lynn Busch

This wrong belief has put an end to marriages just on the brink of healing. The fact is, people do change. Here is a typical scenario of what happens: A wife has been telling her husband for years that she would like him to … (fill in the blank). He continues on, and seems to ignore her requests and possibly not even hear them. Finally,… Read More »Wrong Belief # 8: People Never Change

Wrong Belief # 7: If I forgive someone it means I condone their behavior

by Lynn Busch

If I forgive someone, does it mean I condone their behavior? Or that I trust that person and want to be friends with him/her, and that our relationship is healed. No, it doesn’t mean any of these things. Forgiveness is a completely separate issue. Sometimes you can repair a relationship, and sometimes you can’t. But you can forgive someone… for your own sake, not anyone… Read More »Wrong Belief # 7: If I forgive someone it means I condone their behavior

Wrong Belief # 6: I Need to Make Sure I Am Happy

by Lynn Busch

With this belief, you are taking responsibility for making yourself happy. There’s nothing wrong with that. Or is there… We do not have the power or capability of making ourselves happy. If we take on our own happiness as a job, we are bound to become frustrated. Happiness is elusive. It is not a permanent condition. If we live long enough, we will experience sorrow,… Read More »Wrong Belief # 6: I Need to Make Sure I Am Happy

Wrong Belief #4: I Can and Should Look Like I’m 25 Years Old

by Lynn Busch

Wrong Belief #4: I can and should look like I’m 25 years old…even when I’m 45 years old. We live in a culture that glorifies youth and fears age and death. Can you imagine how much money would be lost in our economy if we suddenly all decided we were just fine with looking older? We don’t want to be that old person in the… Read More »Wrong Belief #4: I Can and Should Look Like I’m 25 Years Old

Wrong Belief #2: I Deserve to Have Mind-Blowing Sex

by Lynn Busch

The belief that we deserve to have mind blowing sex every time we couple causes so much pain and anguish I have to weigh in on this topic. Let me state up front I am not a sex therapist. However, I have counseled lots of couples over the years, and I have seen how sex can be a source of excruciating frustration, sadness, pain, and… Read More »Wrong Belief #2: I Deserve to Have Mind-Blowing Sex